With Father’s Day quickly approaching, they are often forgotten about when a mother is going through postpartum, not just postpartum depression.
10% of dads experience paternal postpartum depression (50% when mom is depressed).
Pregnancy, child birth, and postpartum is all about Mom and Baby. It’s almost like there’s no room for Dad in the picture in that moment. I’ve always wondered if ppd was a thing for dads, too, from a personal standpoint but never actually looked into and was too scared to ask.
There is a documentary that came out this March called When the Bough Breaks: A Documentary of Postpartum Depression. For over a year, I waited for it to be launched. I was finally able to watch and one of the co-directer’s husband was being interviewed and the producer asked him how he handled watching his wife go through what she was going through and you could literally see his thoughts stop in their tracks and he became speechless because he stated up to that point, no one had asked him how he was handling it or how he was doing during the process. That hit home for me on a personal level. I highly recommend watching When the Bough Breaks whether it’s for education or comfort.
Dads out there… Reach out if you feel like something isn’t right. Don’t ignore your feelings. I get it, the weight of the world has been placed on your shoulders. If you don’t understand what your partner is going through, do your best to just be there for her.
Moms out there… Don’t forget that your partners are being effected too. Start a conversation. Ask. Be there for comfort.